I have come to a personal conclusion through research, interviewing others with MCS, and my own personal experience, that there is no such thing as a totally “safe place.”
By contributor Kimberly Shaw.
In this modern age, a "safe" area of the world has basically become an illusion.
Having lived and/or visited eighteen states and seven countries since I was diagnosed with Multiple Chemical Sensitivity, I know quite a bit about searching for a safe place to live. I have come to a personal conclusion through research, interviewing others with MCS, and my own personal experience, that there is no such thing as a totally “safe place.”
Even when we have found a “safer” area to live, circumstances can change around us. These circumstances can be situations we have no control over like a wildfire, an oil spill, a new road being put in, a neighbor spraying pesticide or volcanic smog.
In this modern age, a “safe” area of the world has basically become an illusion. Not trying to burst anyone’s bubble, but it saddens me when I meet people who believe if they could just move to utopia they would finally heal. When they may find the tools for their healing process right where they currently live.
Several months after I was first diagnosed with MCS, I was able (through nothing short of a miracle) to move to a “safer” house. The house was just a city over from the previous home, but it had hardwood floors, no new construction or paint, a whole house water system and a detached garage. We had the ducts cleaned and bought some air purifiers and it became my healing place. It also became my “safe bubble” from which I was first unable and later afraid to leave.
About that time I read a quote from Helen Keller, “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. Security does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than exposure.” While the quote does not apply to those with MCS in the sense that we can (and should) avoid many exposures and dangers, it did show me that my feeling of security was just that, a feeling. I would eventually need to risk and leave the house. That there are no guarantees of safety. All I can do is make the wisest decisions I can make, have the safest house possible and try to plan for the unexpected. In the meantime, I also need to live! Which means sometimes I’ll be at risk when I leave my home. Then again, just staying at home could become risky. One summer in my “safer” house wildfire smoke came into the area and I had to leave my home for several weeks.
Since that first “safer” house, I have moved many times and traveled more than I ever dreamed possible. I have come to realize that the safest place for me is one I create. While I have found there is no “safe place” in terms of an area of the world, there are certainly areas that are far “safer” than others. I feel we need to pick the safest area possible for our situation (taking into account jobs, family, friends, finances, medical care, transportation, etc.) Then we need to find the “safest” place in that area. At that point we can create a “safe” haven in that place.
We can largely control what goes into our house and our bodies. I have found much of my healing has come from being able to control those areas. Most of us with MCS spend a lot of time in our homes, so our homes need to become the safest place possible.
I have had the wonderful opportunity to meet many with MCS during my travels and interviews to make a documentary film about MCS. One thing that has become very clear is that we are all so very different. What works well for one person may or may not work well for another. However, those with “safer” homes regardless of where they live seem to do better than those living in homes that have chemical or mold issues. It seems to better to have a safer home in a more polluted area than live in a less polluted area in a home with issues.
For me, the question has become, “How can I make where I live the safest place possible?” Rather than, “Where is the safest place to live?”
Disclaimer: I am not suggesting anyone ever stay in a bad situation or area. Some places cannot be made better. If you are in a high risk place, leave as soon as possible. I am only suggesting that there is no “utopia.” Some places do seem to work better for most than others though.
Learn more about my documentary film on Multiple Chemical Sensitivity at Adventurous Canary Productions. Come visit me at my blogs Adventurous Canary and Serendipity.
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